Great Sex and the Role of Sensual Touch – A Non-Sexual Way to Touch That Can Lead to Great Sex

Touch is so much more than a covering for your body. Not only is the largest organ in the body, it’s the largest sex organ-so put that worry about penis size to rest. Research shows that children and adults need touch to thrive. Unfortunately, for some adults it may only be during sex that touch is encountered. Sensual touch is about connecting to each other. It also falls under one of Your Great Sex Guide’s ® principles of great sex: involve all of your senses. Here are a few guidelines to help you get the most out of sensual touch.

Sex Is Not the Goal It’s best to practice sessions of sensual touch without the end goal of sex for the first few times. Once you feel comfortable it may be something you work into your sexual repertoire.
Focus Be in the here and now not in the future or past. Concentrate on the sensation of the skin-to-skin contact.
Breathe Slowly draw breath in through the nose. Draw it in so that your abdomen and chest rise. DO NOT HOLD. Slowly exhale through your mouth. Pause a few seconds before repeating.
Chase away all distracting thoughts You can easily get sidetracked by outside concerns like bills, schedules, responsibilities, anxiety about what your partner likes or your desire to have them touch you elsewhere. When that happens immediately return to the deep breathing and focus again on the skin-go-skin contact.
There is no right or wrong way to touch Ideally slow, light strokes are the best. The slower, the better. Leave the pressure and manipulation of your muscles to the professionals. Long strokes or short strokes, with or without oil, it’s your choice.
Avoid the “people pleasing” mentality Sensual touch is more about the pleasure obtained from touching another. Don’t put any pressure on yourself to do anything but touch purely for the pleasure of it. This takes off the pressure for sex.
Don’t give any kind of feedback when receiving touch No wiggling, no giggling, no moaning, no squirming, no sighing-only give feedback if there’s discomfort. The goal is to focus on the connection of skin-to-skin contact.
Don’t focus on the genitals The goal is not to turn on each other sexually, although that may happen. It’s to connect and fully engage the sense of touch. As such, first avoid the genitals. You may after a time desire to stroke the genitals. Again, arousal is not the goal.
Take turns In order for you both to benefit fully, you each need to have the opportunity to be the giver of touch in the active role. Don’t concern yourself with how much time you need to spend on each other, stop when you feel like you’ve gotten your fill of touching.

Since touch is one way humans connect with each other, sensual touch reaffirms that in the strongest way for couples. When you feel connected to your partner, you know there’s bound to be great sex!